Most gay or same-sex attracted people have always been so - some becoming aware of this as they become sexually aware, but others being aware of it from a much younger age. It's really important that you are as supportive as you possibly can be, irrespective of what you hear or how you feel about discussing their sexuality. They are still themselves. What can work much better is simply creating an environment in which your child feels comfortable talking to you in the knowledge that you would be supportive. Yes, I know I already said this once!
This is not the same as the patronising 'everybody has same-sex crushes and you'll grow out of it' attitude, which I have just criticised.
I think my teen might be gay and I don't know how to support them
This goes just the same for young people who are desperate to label themselves as 'straight' in order to fit in. They do need reassurance, but make sure you don't 'protest too much' - one of the things they may need to be reassured about is that this doesn't change anything. What can work much better is simply creating an environment in which your child feels comfortable talking to you in the knowledge that you would be supportive. Love and accept them unconditionally Yes, I know I already said this once! Living Out on Vimeo. That said, our understanding of sexuality nowadays is more fluid than it used to be.
Google books link above, but you can buy the book here True Freedom Trust http: While you might want them to talk to you openly about things, pushing too hard on this can have the opposite effect, causing them to shut you out. There are different versions of this, ranging from a 'nurture' emphasis perhaps the child allegedly had a difficult relationship with their father, or a 'dominating' mother or more of a 'nature' slant supposedly the child was exposed to abnormal hormonal levels in the womb. We are all fallen, and almost all of us struggle with sexual temptation. First, it doesn't take seriously the powerful nature of the feelings themselves at the time, and the concern this may be causing your child.