It was never that way in any of the good stories. More detail is available here. This happened towards the end of my post graduate course and shortly afterwards I started back at work I had been sponsored by this company through university. My brother, unfortunately, found it quite difficult although this was complicated by the fact that he worked at the same company as I did before my transition and therefore probably had to endure some pretty unkind comments about me after I left. One of my very few and only regrets since my transition involved my relationship with one man whom I was unlucky enough to meet and fall in love with. Who is living a fantasy?
On a more strategic level, I work with NHS England on their service specifications for the treatment of transgender adults and also the one for children and adolescents. Learning to love yourself? When I had made my change, I had written to my university, explaining my situation and they had been wonderful and issued me with new degrees in my new name.