You always will be. When someone asks, you can tell them that: Queer Voices. I used sex as an outlet to vent my fears and frustrations with my parents, with no thought of what might happen if I caught an STI. Again, not every guy douches before sex. But a lifetime without sex means a lifetime without the awesome, beautiful, wonderful, sexy people you get to share your world and your bed with — people who will make you feel strong and beautiful and powerful.
It was late or early, depending on your outlook on the world when I was joined by the boy who was living in the room next to mine, way back on the other side of the building.
Take that sex guilt, add gay guilt, and you have even more shame on top of something that should be beautiful and revered. Thanks to a culture that is and always will be hetero-oriented, queer people are often delayed. This can create some tough scenarios for young queer people who may not feel safe coming out to their parents. The mechanics of sex may feel uncomfortable and painful.
The safest sex partners are the ones getting regular testing for HIV and other STIs — a minimum of every three to six months — and who are protecting themselves with condoms and PrEP more on those later.